Have you been proposed to by your woman? Has this caused you to feel emasculated and like you should be reversing roles with your girlfriend? Before you trade in all your pants for dresses (and skorts), let’s look at the situation with a different viewpoint. What’s the reason she proposed to you? Is there something that can change to correct the situation?
The Problem with the Female Proposal
The biggest problem with a woman proposing to her man is that it confuses the expectations in the relationship, and attempts to reverse the roles of the fiancé and the fiancée(as if they aren’t confusing already).
Soon you may find yourself being expected to take her last name or even bear her children!
Okay, men having children isn’t biologically possible, but you get the idea. If you say “yes” to her proposal she might expect you to take on more of the traditional roles of a woman in a relationship or maybe relinquish some of the man’s. If there is no reason for her to propose to you, it could be a sign that she is too controlling, or slightly crazy.
( Hey, AJ proposed to CM Punk on RAW … I rest my case )
If you want to have any say in the continuing relationship, you will need to refuse the proposal and work on making your own proposal.
Did You Wait Too Long to Propose?
In many cases, the woman is proposing because the guy won’t. While your indecisiveness might be cute when picking pizza toppings at a restaurant, it is just annoying when she is expecting you to take the initiative and propose. If she has laid hints that she wants to get married and you have ignored them, she will take action. Did you honestly think she would remain your girlfriend for years to come?
Take the opportunity to tell her that while you want to get married, you will have to say “no” and take the time explain to her that you want to propose to her properly. Take a few days or at most a few weeks to come up with an elaborate proposal which will blow her mind. She will tell all of her friends from the moment you proposed and throughout your marriage about that wonderful day. It will be almost as if her proposal never even happened.
In this scenario, make sure that you do not just say no with the intention of creating your proposal. All she will know is that she put her emotions out there and that you trampled on them like an ogre. You may return from work one day to an empty apartment or to your clothes on the street. You can avoid this with some simple communication when you turn her down. Tell her how important it is to you that you propose and she will understand (maybe even add that you wish to speak to her father first). Now make it worthwhile and have a great wedding!
Before we end this blog post we would like to clear something up. Has it happen before where boy meets girl, girl falls in love with boy, she proposed, they get married and live happily ever after? Sure! And if that’s the dynamic that you both have established in your relationship that’s great! This is just our manly opinion.
What would you say to your girlfriend if she proposed to you?
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